This list could be 100 reasons long, but let’s break it down into segments, shall we? Did you ever feel as though you’re so lost in your weight loss journey that you just want to throw in the towel, wrap up on the couch, go face deep into a pint of Ben & Jerry’s, and just say EFF it?!
There are so many conflicting messages out there, sometimes we don’t know what to think of where to begin! First, let me clarify that weight loss can be HARD, but it’s not COMPLICATED. Read that again, HARD—but not—COMPLICATED.
Let’s take a look—can you relate to any of these reasons? If so, you don’t have to work this out alone because I’m here to help!
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Ok, enough talk, let’s dive in!
1. Your diet is…TOO RESTRICTIVE
Keto! Paleo! Whole 30! No…Low Carb! No, No, No, High Protein!! AHHHHHH!!!!
What friggin’ direction is right?? Here’s the answer…READY? It’s whatever YOU decide. You’re thinking, “Ugh, I thought you were giving me a real answer!” Hear me out…
Get your mind around the fact that there are no good, bad, and ugly foods. You can enjoy the foods you want, whenever you want, on the schedule you choose! Yep.
The very best diet plan is the one that fits your lifestyle, the one that makes you feel good, and the one you can stick to consistently! Maybe that DOES mean that you stay away from some processed foods, but maybe you can still enjoy others.
Don’t like veggies?? Um….ok??? Yep, that’s OOOOOOKKKKKAAAAAY. Why gag them down in an effort to try to be “healthy”? Of course, veggies are healthy, but so are TONS of other foods! So, start slowly, and don’t force yourself to do something you HATE! That will only lead to feelings of failure, regret, and that the changes you want are unattainable. #nobueno
Want to know more about this subject? Check out my article on Finding Food Balance foods to help find the right balance for YOU.
2. You blew it…Now you say, “SCREW IT…”
Ugh. Office donuts. #getsmeeverytime
Here’s the thing. See #1. For most of us, the foods we love are available AT ALL TIMES. If you want a donut, you can literally go get one anytime you want one. Hell, you can get a dozen of them and eat ALL of them, any day of the week. We eat these treats because THEY.ARE.THERE.
Think of this scenario. You’re at work, at your stand-up desk with your full jug of water, your meals all planned out for the day, ready to hit the gym after work, looking ahead, and feeling like a champ.
Then in walks Karen with that all too familiar bakery box…“Karen…you dirty bitch.” You think, “Welp! There goes MY day!! Now I’m gonna have to face avoiding those donuts or my entire day is ruined!”
Then you cave. You actually eat one. Or, heaven forbid, TWO!!! Then you skip the gym altogether, grab a pizza on the way home, and oh, how about 3-4 beers while we are at it? Because…YOU.ATE.THE.DONUT. #thatescalatedquickly
Eff the entire day, right?? WRONG!! Remember, you can eat a donut, while you didn’t plan to, AND you don’t have to throw your entire goals, hopes, dreams, and aspirations out the window!
In fact, you don’t even have to PUNISH yourself for it later! First of all, YOU determine your setbacks. Secondly, YOU determine your goals and how you’ll get there.
ALWAYS expect that things are going to come on your path that “Off Plan” and you’re gonna wanna eat ‘em. So eat them if you want to, just remember that it’s always available to you, if you want it, when you want it. Sometimes the feeling of restriction alone is enough to make us want something that much more.
3. You HATE the foods on your plate. HATE. THEM.
I know veggies have so many added health benefits (I mean, duh), but you know what else does? However, having ice cream with my kids in the summer, drinking a beer on the front porch with my husband, or having a long, busy day, and just wanting to have pizza delivered to my house. That shit is GOOOOOOD.
Ask yourself, what foods:
1) Agree with my digestion?
2) Do I like to cook?
3) Will my family eat?
…the list goes on! These questions, along with many others, can help you develop quite a list of awesomeness, that doesn’t involve choking down bland chicken and raw kale (I mean unless you’re into making your life a living hell…).
So, how do you start?
First, start by taking out a trusty pen and paper and write down the foods you really like! Remember don’t include things that you think are “healthy” or “good for you”, if you don’t ACTUALLY like to eat them!
You are headed in a new direction! You’d be shocked at what foods you enjoy that can actually lead you towards your goals, given the right tools 😉
This is where your Finding Food Balance practices also play a role!
4. Um, You have a LIFE.
Have you ever eaten in your car? On the go? In 5 minutes because you should have been somewhere…5 minutes ago?? Life is busy, and stressful, and downright exhausting some days. Sometimes we get thrown curve balls and it can seem to derail our entire day!
One thing is for sure though, that will happen, again, and again, and again. Be prepared–go back to your list and find what can be conveniently available to you when you know you’ll be in a rush! For Instance, think protein bars, premade shakes, fruit, precut veggies (if you’re into that sort of thing), nuts, or string cheese! The possibilities really are endless, but you MUST think ahead.
Let me share a small part of my story…
Several years ago, my workload at my day job increased, significantly. Long story short, this was STRESSFUL. I was on the road A LOT, which meant I ate in my car, A LOT. Ever try to eat a salad in the car while driving in the city? Yeah.
I packed on about 10-15 pounds in a short amount of time. Not only was I eating what I could shovel in my mouth between appointments, but I was STRESS EATING. How do I know this? Because I would literally be done with my day, exhausted, not that hungry, and ready to be home in about an hour. What would I do? Have a full-on drive-through meal that I didn’t even want or need for fuel. That’s stress eating.
Bottom line—I was not taking care of myself in any way, shape, or form. I was not prepared to fuel my body with long workdays. I was not taking time for myself, away from work, to distress. It was a slippery slope that I didn’t recognize until it was too late, and I had to right the ship! And so I took back control!
#5. You Don’t Know Where to Start.
How about just feeling so completely overwhelmed that you don’t understand ANY. OF. IT.
You don’t know what’s a protein, fat, or carbohydrate. You don’t know how much sugar is too much, why you can’t poop, can’t sleep, can’t workout more than 5 minutes, or have motivation for more than 1 day!?!
Most Importantly, BREATHE. One thing at a time, one step at a time. The very worst thing is not knowing what to do, so you do nothing. Give yourself some friggin’ grace, and start small.
First, start with education.
Thinking about lifting weights? Watch YouTube videos for proper form. Hire a coach. Search Pinterest for “Weight Lifting for Beginners”. Buy a set of dumbbells.
Second, add another aspect you want to learn!
Thinking about tracking your food? Try out an app! Something like My Fitness Pal is a great place to start. Or start small and just write down everything you eat or drink for one day. Then two days, then three, and so on. Need more assistance in that direction? Check out my article on The Basics of Macros Tracking!
Above all, practice PATIENCE and give yourself GRACE. There is more to life than your weight, food, and how much you’re exercising. This is a part of life, you just need to learn how to manage it, FOR YOU, on your terms.
Pick a topic that you don’t know about, and LEARN. Still feeling overwhelmed after giving it a go on your own? Contact the Mother Lovin’ Struggle for Accountability, Education, and Support at any time! I’m here to help you sort through these frustrations, on YOUR terms, in YOUR time.